By Dr. Taffy Wagner, CEPF, WedNet Specialist Blogger on Wedding Money, http://www.DebtAtTheAltar.com
That title got your attention didn’t it! Hold on to your seat because I am going to change it up for you. I am well aware that you are the shopper in the relationship and your fiancé does not know it. So NSF for you means Not So Fast. That means you do not go to the store every day or even every two or three days. But you go at least once a week and each time you go, you shop.
Lean in close – you are a SHOPPER! Even if you tried to play by the NSF rules, you are a shopper. In that regard because you like to shop even prior to marriage, you need to establish some boundaries for shopping. Sure you do because you are more than likely a shopper that will give in to peer pressure. Think about it. How many times have you been out with your girlfriends and had not planned on buying anything, but once they started buying you felt that urge to buy as well?
Or how many times have you gotten sales flyers in the mail and that led you to stop what you were doing and go to the mall or that particular store? Prior to receiving the sale flyer you did not have a reason to go to the store. I know what happened, when you opened the flyer there were several items that called out to you. You could not disappoint them and you put them out of their misery and went and purchased them.
If you are a shopper and have not shared this with your fiancé, I encourage you to have this discussion prior to walking down the aisle. Money challenges can have an ugly affect on marriage. This will make a difference in who manages the money and other financial decisions that should be made prior to marriage.